I've been where you are.
You’ve spent so long making sure everyone else is okay…
that somewhere along the way, you forgot about yourself.
Maybe you’re constantly saying yes when you mean no.
Maybe your mind never switches off, replaying conversations,
overthinking and worrying about how you’re perceived.
Maybe you feel responsible for other people’s emotions,
you're exhausted from carrying everyone else while quietly abandoning yourself.
Part of you knows something needs to change…
but changing it feels uncomfortable, scary, or impossible.
Because people-pleasing isn’t just a habit.
It’s a survival response.
Your body learned:
“If I keep the peace, I’ll be safe.”
“If I’m easy, helpful, accommodating… I’ll be loved.”
“If I upset someone, I might lose connection.”
This programme is here to help you unravel that pattern without becoming someone else.
So, pause for a moment.
Imagine how your life will change when you stop living in survival mode ...
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Trusting your decisions without spiralling afterwards
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Feeling calm saying “no” without feeling guilty
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Letting emotions move, instead of stay stuck
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Knowing your worth isn’t tied to how much you give
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Trusting yourself instead of seeking approval
All because your nervous system finally feels safe enough to stop performing for love, attention and validation.
This is for the version of you that's exhausted.
From holding back how you really feel.
From apologising after you express a need or boundary.
From rushing your words so you don’t take up space.
From over-giving to the point of resentment.
It's also for the version of you that’s ready:
To stop abandoning yourself.
Who knows there has to be another way to live.
I'm here to show you, there absolutely is.
And you are worthy of that.
The Journey
Week 1
Understanding the pattern
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Becoming an observer to the pattern
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Identifying your triggers
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Tuning into your body's signals
Week 2
Challenging the story
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Getting to the root of your people-pleasing
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Reframing beliefs in real time
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Challenging fears to rewrite the story
Week 3
Meeting emotions
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Seeing emotions as messengers
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Helping patterns get unstuck in the body
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Meeting your protective parts
Week 4
Returning to inner safety
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Deciphering intuition from fear
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Standing firmly in your choices
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Speaking your needs with confidence
How will it work?
Every Monday you’ll receive an email from me with:
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Your recorded coaching session
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Guided somatic practices
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Reflection prompts
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Integration tasks
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Messaging & voice note check-ins during the week
X1 Live Integration call (week 2)
X1 Post-programme follow-up call
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Hear from others
"Working with Harriet has been great. We clicked right from the beginning and she made me feel safe and supported throughout the Pleasing to Power programme.
She has a very caring demeanour with added directness to be sure you are pushing yourself to look at your patterns and behaviour around people pleasing.
I highly recommend this work if you are looking to break these patterns and stop self-abandoning to make others comfortable. In fact, that's why it's so good because Harriet gives techniques and advice on how to deal with this is real time which is usually the biggest hurdle."
- Angie
This programme is ...
An acknowledgment to your past self,
A commitment to your present self,
And a promise to your future self.
This is your invitation to start choosing yourself.
Gently, honestly, and one step at a time.
Let me support you on your journey.
FAQS
How will it work exactly?
Every Monday, you'll receive an email from me which will include: your recorded coaching session, reflection prompts and a simple integration exercise. This is a self-paced programme designed with your busy life in mind. You will also receive on-going, live support throughout the month.
What makes this different from just listening to podcasts or reading self-help books?
This programme goes beyond intellectual understanding. Alongside teaching, you’ll be guided through real-life integration work to help create change on a nervous system level, not just in the mind. You'll also have me as an accountability partner the whole way through.
I’ve been people-pleasing for years… can this actually change?
Yes, but gently and gradually. People-pleasing is a learned survival pattern, not your identity. The goal isn’t to become a completely different person. It’s building awareness, self-trust, and safety within yourself so you feel confident to live life on your terms and break patterns of self-betrayal.
How much time do I need to commit to this each week?
The recorded coaching session will be around 60 minutes, which you can pause, resume and playback at any time. Integration work could be 5 mins per day, but this depends on how determined you are to break patterns of people-pleasing. Your commitment to the work will determine how fast your start to see changes.
Will there be continued support after the programme ends?
Of course! This isn’t the end, it’s the beginning. There will be opportunities to continue working with me, either through further 1:1 support or as part of a community (that I'm in the process of building, exciting!).
What if I'm still not sure?
If your body is saying yes and your mind is saying maybe, that’s normal. Just remember: anything new, is also currently unfamiliar to your body, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. Read more, feel into it, email me or message me on Instagram. You can also book a free call to ask me any questions. Absolutely no pressure. Go with what feels right for you.